Lying to yourself, convincing yourself or ignoring facts which are true is the ultimate personal sin you can commit on yourself. What’s known for certain is the worst lies you tell aren’t the ones which deceives others, but the one’s you tell to yourself.
Once you lie to yourself, it becomes a disrespectful mental issue. It doesn’t matter how you rationalize it positively, as negative thought processes at the subconscious level takes over.
It does so without you even realizing it. The reason being, what we do is mistake these pessimistic thoughts as fact. The cure begins with knowing what these personal lies are.
10. You’re Never Lucky Enough
Luck is a relative concept that has different meaning and significance to different individuals. Choosing to get discouraged and giving up after a series of unfortunate events, is just lying to yourself.
Once you blame “bad” luck which is the most convenient once you fail, may be easy at first, but it is also the wrong approach.
After all, no one’s perfect, people make more mistakes than doing the right things and get “lucky,” so stop wallowing in self pity.
9. Bad Relationships Constantly Follow You
Similar to failure in general, unsuccessful relationships also brings valuable life lessons which shapes our character and personality.
When getting involved in a relationship, the eventual outcome of that relationship is never guaranteed, things can get dysfunctional.
No one’s saying however, you should continue to prolong a bad relationship more than you need to.
Understand and rationalize the reasons why it’s not working, the mistakes you’ve made, and move on if you need to.
8. Your Goals Are Beyond Reach
This is a common occurrence for those who are afraid to follow their dreams, take risks because of the fear of failure. Where they end up, is always predicable and easy, and a less satisfying result.
This also emerges once all the negative misconceptions of others, guides their direction in life because of their low self-esteem. Keep in mind anything that’s actually worth getting, is difficult.
7. You Don’t Deserve To Be Happy
Desire is a reason for unhappiness. Those who constantly focuses on things they don’t have, rather than what they do have, are headed towards discontent.
Regardless of how much wealth they attain for themselves, what they do is hoard, and become hermits.
Sadly, it’s not until they’re in their senior declining years in a rest home, is when they realize the error of their ways.
When nearing the mountaintop, don’t think about how far you still need to climb, but instead, how far you’ve come. Be grateful.
6. You Just Can’t Break Free
What remaining in unhappy marriages or relationships does is damages self esteem, pride, and self-worth.
Everybody but them, sees the relationship as dysfunctional or abusive. They become abused to the point they readjust and accept, or don’t care any longer.
They’re terrified to stand up and break free. So they lie to themselves, convince themselves everything is okay, that things will get better.
Life is short, so be brave and stand up for yourself, and escape when you can.
5. The Fear Of Failure
Without failing at things in life, it becomes impossible to make any forward progress. You will fail numerous times until that win.
The greatest achievers in life admit they look forward to failure, as what failing does is it gets them one step closer to their goal.
What the majority will do however is give up on their first try, because of the fear of failing again.
What they then do is start ignoring the next opportunity that comes their way, then consider themselves a failure.
4. Fate Directs Their Lives
The instances are rare when someone who remains inactive in life, being lazy and procrastinates, suddenly becomes successful.
So don’t hold your breath that will bless you in the near future, to bring you riches.
You need to take your life by the scruff of the neck, into your own hands and become the architect of your personal aspirations.
Don’t wait for or expect someone to do it for you. It’s like planting a seed, never watering it, then expecting the plant to grow.
3. Afraid To Take Risks
If you fail to take a certain risk, you’ll then be left with wondering “what if.” This can potentially happen for the rest of your life depending on its impact.
The strong force that is regret for certain actions you’ve left undone, often haunts and overpowers the lament of doing something stupid or nothing at all.
This isn’t saying invest all your life savings in a risky business venture, but at the very least, take the initiative to investigate its potential.
2. I Don’t Want To Meet New People
Just because you currently have a few friends right now, doesn’t mean the relationships will last. People move on.
Personalities and priorities are constantly shifting, so it’s not certain you’ll be on the same page with them later.
If you call someone your best friend right now, you never know what might happen to the relationship in the future.
So the key is to be constantly meeting new people, develop new relationships once the opportunity arises, by using your better judgment.
1. Your Past Dictates The Future
What’s known is anyone can commit errors of judgment from time to time. Everybody makes mistakes, which is a given.
These mistakes however should be considered life lessons, and not a series of failures. That you are a failure in life.
The next time you contemplate on your past mistakes, and think you’ll just repeat them, remind yourself what you’ve learned from that mistake.
Tell yourself you are ready to move on. Once you adopt this attitude, you’re then ready for anything life throws your way.